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WTB launches weekly fatherhood peer-to-peer group

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May 2, 2013 | News
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Capt. Randy Venswencey marvels at the ‘graduation’ certificate the class members received from Lt. Col. Chris Cook, commander, 1st Battalion, WTB. The class had such an impact on the single father of two that he is helping Marcallus Sunday (center) facilitate the next class, which starts May 2. Gloria Montgomery, WTB Public Affairs
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Sgt. Sherwood Robinson discusses his career transitioning with Marcallus Sunday, who launched the class several months ago as an additional resource for the male soldiers assigned to the WTB. Gloria Montgomery, WTB Public Affairs
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Sgt. Sherwood Robinson now spends more time with his Family, thanks to the father skills and ideas he learned in WTB’s new fatherhood class. Gloria Montgomery, WTB Public Affairs
Two uninvolved fathers taught Marcallus Sunday the most valuable lesson in parenthood: how not to be a father.

Now, Sunday, who is a social work assistant at the Warrior Transition Brigade, has bundled his passion for fatherhood and life lessons into a classroom-based resource for fathers and soon-to-be fathers within the WTB.

Capt. Randy Venswencey, a single father of two boys ages 10 and six, said the 8-week class is a long time in coming.

“To me, this class kind of opened up the door and helped me realize that I’m not alone,” Venswencey said, adding that the class has been helpful networking with other fathers in similar situations. “We’re all dealing with the same things, and that’s giving us an opportunity to bounce ideas off of each other. I bring what I know, and they bring what they know.”

Sunday realized the need for a peer-to-peer networking class for fathers via the Soldier’s comprehensive transition plan, which is a goal-setting interdisciplinary program centered on six domains: physical, emotional, Family, spiritual, social and career. It’s the Soldier’s blue print for successful transitioning, with the outcome solely dependent on the Soldier’s participation and commitment.

“When Soldiers were coming into HHC, we found out ‘Family’ wasn’t fine,” Sunday said, adding that key issues were separation, divorce, Family reintegration and coping with being a single parent.

He also met a lot of young men who, like himself, didn’t have a father figure in their lives.

“That’s what they know,” he said, “but I tell them being ‘scarred’ by their father’s neglect is not an excuse, but a lesson on how not to be.”

Sunday’s passion for fatherhood grew from his experiences with an absent biological father and a man he thought was his father but he saw only on weekends.

“Neither saw me grow up in life,” the father of five said, adding that he holds no animosity to either of them since he learned from them how to be a better father. “I just think every man should be involved with their children and be able to connect and to communicate with them.”

To kick-start the resource class, Sunday asked the group what they would think if they all had a daughter, and she brought home the man she was about to marry.

“He thinks like you, he acts like you, he’s every bit like you,” Sunday said. “Would you give your daughter your blessing to marry a man just like you? If you answered ‘no’ then it’s time you made some changes in your life. You’re saying right there that you aren’t the kind of father you should be to your children, so you’d better check the kind of man you are. You have to be a father to become a father.”

The retired Army Reservist admits juggling the duties of parenthood and serving in the Army often create struggles and conflicts in today’s Army Family, a theme Sunday’s classroom fathers validated via ongoing discussions on how to blend the two.

“It’s a big challenge being in the Army and managing my responsibilities here and then having to meet my children’s needs,” said Venswencey, who is assigned to Company B, 1st Battalion, WTB. “This class allows us to speak frankly about what’s going on in our Families and get ideas from the other dads. Having other dads there in class going through the same thing that you are experiencing is also calming and reassuring,” adding that “rank is left at the door” at the start of the Thursday afternoon classes.

Sunday said that another key stressor for his male pupils was reintegrating back into the Family following extended deployments.

“The Family ran just fine without them,” he said, “and now they are having a hard time adjusting to becoming the husband-father again and getting that leadership role back.”

“The Army teaches you to go away,” said Lt. Col. Chris Cook, commander, 1st Battalion, WTB. “You are not thinking of your Family when you are downrange. Then you come home and you find out your Family doesn’t ‘jump’ when you address them like Soldiers in your unit.”

For Sgt. Sherwood Robinson, Company B, 1st Battalion, WTB, the class has taught him the importance of spending more time with his Family.

“I have learned how to become a better father,” said the father of seven, which includes two 21-year-old twin girls who are out on their own and five children ages seven to 20. “Before the class, I thought being home was enough, but I learned I had to do more,” adding that he now incorporates weekend dinner and movie nights with his twin girls.

“Look, there is no book written that can ever tell you how to raise a child,” Sunday said, “but I just tell everybody that your children are going to make mistakes and do things parents do not like. As a father, you have to love your child. It doesn’t mean you have to love what they do, but if you love that child and are able to forgive, you will have a better understanding of what that child is going through.”

WTB’s next fatherhood group sessions run through June 20 in Bldg. 3502, located in Rough Rider Village. For more information, contact Sunday at 287-8913 or e-mail him at Marcallus.Sunday1.civ@mail.mil.
 
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