Email   Print   Share By Maj. Gen. William Grimsley, Fort Hood Acting Senior Commander

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Combat is a necessary part of our lives in the Army. Few of Fort Hood’s Soldiers have not been affected by it during eight years of combat deployments. We’re trained to inflict harm and do violence on the enemy in defense of our country. However, we’re also taught restraint and how to properly apply controlled measures of violence only when necessary.

In our line of work, it’s crucial that we know where that violence ends. One thing we must always remember is that we can never bring violence into our homes. In April, I signed the Month of the Military Child Proclamation, recognizing the importance of our children and bringing awareness to the problem of child abuse. Fortunately, that has not been a significant problem in our Fort Hood community.

Lately, however, we have been seeing a spike in the number of reported cases of spousal abuse. In some of these cases the female, both Soldier and spouse, has been determined to be the aggressor. A few other cases are a result of mutual combat. Regardless of the circumstance, victim or perpetrator, if you find yourself in a situation that might escalate to violence you must choose to walk away and remove yourself from the scenario.

Domestic violence is a serious offense and there are real consequences. The aggressor will be arrested, the Soldier will be removed from the home for a period of time, and sometimes the children will be placed in emergency foster care if both parties are arrested.

Our families are precious to us, and we must always remember the love we have for them and the support they’ve shown us as we continue our service to the nation. Seek out the support of your friends and fellow Soldiers as a way to unwind and clear your head during a family crisis.

Violence between fellow Soldiers is also terrible and we must always remember the duty and bond that unites everyone who wears a uniform. For many people, violence can be a very deep and personal struggle and there are those who might wish to harm themselves. Suicide is never an option. There are those who care very much for you and their lives will be changed forever once you’re gone.

Remember at all times that the chain of command is there for you. They can make resources available to help you and your family deal with problems and frustrations before they turn violent.

Military Family Life Consultants and counselors can teach you effective communication skills and coping mechanisms you can use to avoid resorting to violence. Violence is never the answer when it comes to dealing with your family and loved ones.

Take time during this weekend to spend time with your friends and family. They’re our greatest sources of support.

Phantom Warrior!